The Garden of Friendship
 

Sometimes people will let you down, but is it truly a case of them letting you down, or is it more a case of you having had expectations that another person did not meet? Could it be that the problem is your expectations? 

You all do it. You all expect things from other people. And when those expectations aren’t met, disappointment, anger, or frustration result. So often the other person does not even know you have such expectations. 

What is the real cause of the problem? There are two: lack of communication, and expectations. 

The solution? There is only one: communication. Although we will add that love is always a vital mix to anything and everything. 

Communication seems to be sadly lacking in so many friendships and then you all wonder why problems arise. A friendship will thrive if you both communicate instead of assume. Communicate what it is you want or need, don’t expect the other person to know. 

You expect a person to fulfil your criteria, and then they fail to do so, and you are surprised the friendship fails. Having expectations means that your friendship is conditional, that you expect the other person to meet your criteria. That’s not true friendship. Be unconditional, and be accepting of the other person. Conditional is too hard, unconditional is open, free, accepting, it is unconditionally loving. 

When you expect another person to behave in a specific way, you are not allowing them to be who they are. When you tell them you have expectations and demands you are, in effect, insisting that they be what you want them to be and not who they truly are. Surely a friendship will thrive far better if you encourage each other to be who you truly are, to support and love each other enough that the very best of you can come forth and shine? An unconditional friendship will do this! 

When you accept and love a person for who they are, and you place no expectations or demands upon them, you effectively create a garden of friendship. For that is a place your friend will want to come, because in that place they are not berated for not calling you last week, or for being too busy to come visit. In that place they will call, and they will say ‘I am so sorry I have not been in touch,’ and you will reply ‘Sweetie, that’s fine. You’re busy, I know that. And you know that my love and my friendship are unconditional. I love you, and I look forward to hearing from you whenever you have the time.’ And in that, your friend can breathe, never feel guilty, and now that he/she is cherished. It truly is the greatest gift you can give. You will find that this garden of friendship is a place your friend longs to come to first, not after she has fulfilled the demands and expectations of everyone else, but the place she wants to come to first, to feel nourished, to feel refreshed. 

Friendships that are filled with expectations and demands are a very closed. They do not encourage growth. They are not supportive and encouraging. They are limiting, and confining. You do not go there to be refreshed and nourished. You go there only to have specific needs fulfilled, knowing that only some of your needs can be fulfilled there and not all of your needs.  

The garden of friendship that you could have is a place where you can take all of your needs, and your fears and worries, and know that the other friend in this garden will listen, will love you, will support you, will help you find solutions, will—every single time—make you feel better. In this garden you will be embraced by a mutual love that is given so freely that it thrives and grows and flourishes. It is like the embrace of the wings of a thousand Angels. Whenever you go to this garden of friendship you can feel the love weaving through your energy, you can feel its tangible touch. 

Expectations and demands do not exist in this garden. So, let us ask you: what kind of friendship would you like to have?

18 January 2012

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Thought = Energy

In life, you have a choice of what you want to focus on, of where you want to spend your energy.

Take a few moments to ask yourself: What AM I focussing on? Am I utilising my energy in areas that make me happy, that make me peaceful? Or am I focussing on things that make me unhappy? Am I focussing on the problems in my life, the frustrations with colleagues, family and friends?

Are you really spending your energy in areas that make you happy? If not, how about changing that? Continuing to spend your energy in areas that make you unhappy or frustrated is equivalent to spending money on tape to cover a puncture in your car tyre. You need to get the hole in the tyre fixed so that you no longer have to spend any more money on tape.

Think of your energy as money. If it really was money you would be more careful where you spent it. Why not value your energy as much as you value your money?

This is where the problem lies. Energy is free, and limitless, and thus you do not place much value on it! You spend it on things you don’t want. You spend it on things that make you sad, unhappy, miserable, angry.

Our challenge to you, is to give your energy value and to spend it wisely.

Think of your energy as a precious commodity. We are not saying don't spend time with certain people in your life, we are primarily (for today) talking about the energy that you give to your thought processes, the things that you think about, get obsessed about, get riled about.

Think, carefully, about what you are thinking about!

Remember that what you focus on, what you give your energy to is what you create more of.

Some of the greatest truths are not that difficult to comprehend, yet they make the greatest difference to your life.

29 September 2011

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Times are a changing

In a world that is constantly changing, what makes you think you can stay the same? 

The physical world has been flexing and moving and shaking and vibrating, and this is the macrocosmic display if what is going on within you, for you are the microcosm. Each affects the other, whether you want to believe this or not. 

Life can roll along, unchanging, day after day, year after year, decade after decade, but sooner or later something must change. Humankind are not here to replicate a single day a million times, you are here to grow, to evolve spiritually. But you are stagnating, you are bogged down in a material world that is not real. You are playing a part of the game but not the whole game. You have drowned in your own illusory world! 

If we offered you an entire world, a beautiful and fertile world and then gave you the choice of experiencing the entire world or staying on a tiny island as big as a city block, what would you choose? Would you chose the tiny island? We do not think so. And yet, that is exactly what you  have done. You have chosen to live in a tiny area, to experience a tiny portion of your reality, to limit yourself to smallness. We would like you to consider experiencing that entire world! 

How many times have you felt an intuition or an inner guidance and then chosen not to follow it? How many times have you wished there was more to life? How many times has your instinct told you not to trust a person? How many times have you felt that another person’s energy was loving, beautiful, or just plain wrong? How many times have you sat outside in the sun and wondered at the peace that came over you? How many times have you talked to another person and just known you could trust them with your heart? 

Do you understand how much of yourself you do not understand? Do you see how much you shut down? It is like having two hands and using only one! We would like you to develop all of you.  

The earthquakes throughout the world, these should have shaken your very foundations so that you could see if they supported you! Please do not ignore what has been happening and think you can revert to your same old same old. You cannot. This world is changing and you need to change with it, for Earth will no longer wait for you. She cannot. Earth herself is a BEing of intelligent energy, and she is evolving. 

We ask you to please begin paying more attention to your intuition, your inner guidance, your ‘other’ senses. And please be more loving in this world. Find where in your life you can improve and start making those improvements.

Listen. 

Pay attention. 

Love. 

We will talk on this more, but for now we are really just asking you to start paying attention.

25 August 2011

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Connected

Connected. The person and the land. The land and the people. One. How one behaves, affects the other. 

The Earth is growing, evolving. This affects the people. The people are growing and evolving. This affects the Earth.  

Then there are the people who are polluting, being violent, cruel, fear-full, stripping the land of resources for the sake of riches. This also affects the land. 

Take care with how you treat the land, and with how you treat each other. Do not say things that you know hurt another. Do not assume things that may not be true. Do not run in fear of being close to another person. Do not push away those who love you. Do not be impatient with those who are in your love. Support each other. Love each other. Nurture each other. Cherish the land by tending to your gardens with love and care. Plant flowers, vegetable, fruit trees, and then treat them well. Give them what they need to grow well and flourish. 

A friendship is like a garden, they both need to be nurtured, and given what they need to flourish and thrive. Being angry with a friend, or hurting them, is like dumping poison in your garden. Don’t do that. Take responsibility. 

Ascension is a process that you are all caught up in, and humankind cannot ascend without the Earth. And the Earth would rather ascend with you all on board, but make no mistake about this: she can ascend without any of you. The goal is for all of life on Earth to ascend with Earth. We are doing what we can to support you on this, but we really cannot stress enough how much you need to take responsibility for what you are thinking, saying and doing.

To all the people of Christchurch, New Zealand, and to everyone affected by the earthquake, many many Angels have been working hard to take care of you. All of those who perished are taken care of. At this time, please know how greatly we all love you.

1 Mar 2011

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Fears

Your fears often cause you to make decisions, and take actions, that are not the best for you.  

If you always responded from a perspective of loving acceptance of self and others, you would be more inclined to make decisions from the heart – decisions that would be more in alignment with what is best, or perhaps most honest for you. 

Ego speaks loud, shouts at you, demands attention, shrieks of outrage. But the heart is quieter, and it will ask you ‘what is the most loving response?’ 

Sometimes a situation arises and you get hurt, and want to shut the person out. Really, if you look at this a bit closer, what you are trying to do is punish them. Ask yourself, what is the most loving response? What is it they truly need from you? Love, patience, time, to be heard, to be allowed to vent, to be unconditionally loved no matter what? Don’t look at punishing them, look at supporting them. Punishing them is ego-talk, it is childish, it is destructive, it is hurtful. It is anything but loving. 

That which does not come from love is false, unreal, invalid. That which does come from love is real, for in the grand scheme of your reality, you are love. 

So when a situation arises, don’t think about revenge, think about your heart, about love, and look at the situation from there. You will find that you will feel much better after you do respond than you would have if you had let ego guide you! 

Do not live in fear of begin hurt. Live in loving, positive action! Go forth, loving people and life, and live that in every moment!

2 Feb 2011

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Is it better?

Is it better to love to the point of pain, than to limit the love that you feel? 

Is it better to limit your passion, to contain and cage it, rather than let it be free?  

Is it better to live in fear of pain, than to embrace life and all it has to offer? 

To live fully … you cannot limit yourself. To live with passion you must live with passion!! You can’t wait for it to come and find you…you  have to live it!!!

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Change your focus

You make the world a better place, just be being in it!

Okay, so if this is true, why can’t you give the very best of yourself? Why do you hold back, limit the love you feel for your friends? Just let the love flow freely, but it must be unconditional, requiring no response, no reciprocation, nothing from the other person at all. Just love them.

What will this do for you? It will enable you to feel more filled with love, and to live with more love in every day. Where’s the down side? There isn’t one!

If your friendship is conditional, and you require something from the other person, then it will not work. Your love must be unconditional. Friendships such as these nourish the mind, the body and the soul.

Doubt me? Try it. Prove it to yourself. Spend 6 months living like this!

The wonderful thing about this ‘way of living’ will be that it will attract situations in which you will feel loving and joyous. It’s just the way things work – an unspoken rule of the universe.

So… come on…give it a try.

27 Oct 2010

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Peace must begin within

If you are not peaceful within, don’t try to share your peace with the world. First tend to yourself. This is our advice for all light-workers in areas of devastation. 

You cannot give peace unless you are filled with peace. If you are filled with fear, then fear is all you are going to share. So relax, tend to yourself, and let other light-workers pick up the slack. 

In a time of turmoil you cannot help that which is outside until you have tended to that which is inside. But how do you do this? You begin by allowing yourself to experience the emotions that are flowing through you. Don’t suppress them, because they will just stay suppressed. Don’t pretend they are not there, because they won’t go away. Look at them, feel them, understand them, allow yourself to work through them, and release them. 

In your day to day life, do what you need to do, attend to what requires your attention. Work through the process that needs to take place. 

As the days pass you will find you are coming back, more and more, to your centre. Dealing with the emotions as they arise is being honest with yourself. Suppressing emotions is being dis-honest with yourself. You will come back to your centre, then find yourself flying out of it again, and this is likely to happen repeatedly. Just go with the flow, and don’t beat yourself up when you find you are kicked from your centre yet again! 

When you find you are in your centre, and feeling extremely calm, you are able to help all around you. Allow light, love, and serenity to flow into you, and through you, keeping some for yourself, but sharing the rest with your family, neighbourhood, city, nation. 

As your find yourself in your centre, and from that peace and love, give the best you can bring through, you will find that you are coming back to your centre more and more, and able to stay there for longer and longer. This is why it is beneficial to be in your centre, able to be extremely calm and bring through the most love, light and serenity, because it will enable you to heal and recover faster.

13 Sep 2010

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